I have a three and a half-year old. I have experienced the dreaded “terrible twos” which actually started earlier than two and extended beyond the threes. I’ll venture to say that they are just now starting to subside. Finally. And thank God for that!
I was always told about the “Why?” stage. That my child would bombard me everyday with ‘why’ questions. That I would grow tired of the endless questions like: “why can’t I have it?, why do I have to wear it, why is that blue?” I got myself ready for the endless questioning. But to my surprise, it never came. Sure, she would ask it every once in a while. But in a more controlled and understandable way. It actually made sense when she asked and it was easy to answer and/or explain her request.
But…! (you knew it was one coming, right?) I was never warned of the “Can I have…”stage. No one ever told me how bothersome this phrase would become because of the overuse of it. So I am here to educate you moms and dads of this displeasing and less often mentioned phase of childhood.
I don’t care what it is that I am doing or have in my hand, my child is asking if she can have it as well. I have never counted the number of times my child asks this throughout any given day. But I can tell you that the annoyance from it is considerable. Some things I understand her asking for. The typical things like snacks or treats. The unending request for candy! But it starts to get out of control when she’s asking to have some of my heartburn medicine or some of the Bacitracin I’m putting on the cut in my nose!!
What is it about kids and them wanting any and everything you (or anyone else) have?! My kid won’t even know what it is I’m rubbing on my arms, spraying in my hair or dropping in my eyes. And it doesn’t even matter to her. She must have it. So, all day I am grieved to hear “Can I have some of that?” “Can I taste it?” “Can I smell that?” “Can I have a flashlight?” “Can I have some chapstick?” “Can I have a rock?” I am sitting here and actually calling to mind a plethora of things this kid asks for throughout the day. And I am strongly tempted to write them ALL in here. Just in case you don’t have a child that has gone through this phase. Or maybe you don’t have children at all! Misery loves company and I’d love to share that long list of “Can I have’s” with you. But I don’t want to lose you as a reader. So I better not. lol
I don’t know if my kid traded the ‘why?’ with ‘can I have?’ and that the irritation of both is the same. I can see that being the case. So, if you have been lucky enough to bypass either of these stages in your own children, sing your praises now and rejoice! If not, brace yourself for it. And if you have any warnings for me of any phases I’ve got in store–ones that aren’t abundantly mentioned (and kept secret) such as this one–please share it with me so I can be prepared! Together, we parents can be triumphant!